Category Archives: Son’s Stuff

Taking a Bite Outta Life……..

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I saw this picture in an art book Jesse and I are looking through for his art class.

It made me think of when Jesse was little [about 6 or 7] He was at grammas house and a black cocker spaniel lived next door. She was a mean barker and the neighbors never let her out of the garage.

I don’t quite know how she got out, her name was Pepper, and came chasing after Jesse. He somehow ran up against the garage door and she just kept jumping up on him, biting his butt.

Needless to say I was fiercely angry that it happened and threatened my mother with never allowing Jesse to visit her again.

He also got bit on his 14th birthday, out at the other grandparents beach house by a dog, on the thigh.

See that post here

I was going to superimpose a picture of a dog head on the lion and Jesse’s head on the guy, but he forbade me to do it.

This is our weird sense of humor and we laugh more than work during the day sometimes. ahhh, homeschooled children, they grow up to be such productive adults…… haha!

So, Enjoy the day, laugh and look at art or at least look at someone or something with different, kinder, joyful eyes.

Blessings, Kristina

Under No UnCertain Terms Finds this Story

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My search engine terms from the past few days:
should a christian youth have a boyfriend ~ no, no dating until you are married 🙂

how do i happy when im depressed ~ look toward Jesus

how to be a good husband,  how to be a good wife, “good wife” maiden name, always testing a boyfriend~ Here, here and here
devotion and psalms 100:3, meanings of ii Thessalonians 2:3
spiritual gifts serving
redneck woman ~but my buddy is redneck
kristinas crucifixion ~ WHAT!?!?!?!
melissa scott preacher, barbi bridges, pastormelissascott.com, mellisa scott porn ~ its here but no pictures, this post is my highest clicked on
is creatine necessary? ~from here
18 to 21 years old ladies breast good pics,  breast removal,  radical mastectomy ~ because of my breast cancer posts here and here
engineer she want to be one porn star ~not this engineer!ana bella porn free, “anna yo” ~umm, do they know she is a princess not a dog? She does
home engineer, home engineer women

pretty christian woman ~might i add there were 3 hits for this

knife in throat before give to gluttony

snake women ~ there has been lots of these with snake in them. I have 4 posts with ‘snake’ in them

peace ~558 hits (all time)

Speaking of snacks, I mean, snakes, here is the boy to tell you a true story:

Ok ‘the boy’ is here…

So, after Easter service some of my friends and I were talking about creepy stories. Then S. said that  she had a really good one. So she started to tell a story that will change the way you look at snakes…forever…..

Samantha knows this lady who owns a snake.(Gross level 1) To be more specific she owns a boa constrictor. She loves this snake. This snake is her BABY.(Gross level 2) What I am about to say might disturb you but, please keep reading.

She loves this snake so much…..she let’s it ….sleep…WITH her in HER bed.(Gross level ..um..1 million!!) (Stupid level..BRAINLESS) Well, she has owned this snake for 6 years.

After awhile she noticed that her precious snake wasn’t eating. it almost looked as if it was starving itself. she also noticed that at night the snake would not coil up. Instead, it laid stretched out beside her. She immediately thought her baby was sick.

So, she took it to the vet. She told the vet all of the ‘simptons’ her snake was having. The vet told her that the snake must be put down immediately.

She didn’t know what to say. “Why?’ was the first thing she managed to muttered out.  The vet said calmly” your snake is planning….on eating you..” the lady was stunned “What do you mean!?!?!”

“See, snakes are smart. If they know they have an opportunity for a larger meal they will starve themselves. And if the meal is dead the snake will MEASURE its body to the length and the meal.

After 6 years of sleeping with a 120 pound thing that dosen’t move for 8 hours and smells like chicken (not literally), i guess your snake loved you more than you loved it………

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Creepy story, aye?

Construction, Bubble Boy, 3 Inch Scar, Etc.

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This always gets my goat, don’t know why, I think because my mom had one and she sets it out with all her other Santa’s, sort of a “Phew, I’m covered, the Christians can’t attack me, I got baby Jesus in the mix” .
You can find it at the Catholic Supply store

 

 

Check out the caption:
 There is no greater joy than watching a baby’s face at his or her first Christmas. The excitement and happiness parents feel are contagious and surely their child is not immune to the love surrounding this holy holiday. It is only fitting then, that the gentle gift bringer, Santa, comes to visit the greatest Bringer of hope, love and peace: the little Baby Jesus. As the Baby’s face lights upon seeing Santa’s gift, a cuddly teddy bear complete with big red bow, his hand reaches up to accept the precious gift. Santa’s eyes glisten as he sees the sweetness and beauty of the Baby Jesus, who, though nestled in His humble bed of straw, bears all the dignity and power of a King.

 

Well, we made it thru the surgery and the allergy testing.

The boy: is pretty much allergic to…. Everything outside. Everything. It’s time for the bubble. We were joking about at the dr. office, then the doc was giving him his options for treatment and the last one. A bubble.

Do any of you remember the movie Bubble Boy?

Son will be getting shots for a few years, twice a week to begin with.

The dog: She came thru surgery fine, 3 inch scar, still on pain meds., hopefully will hear the outcome by Tuesday. The vet who operated on her, has a golden who had 2 tumors so she was pretty knowledgeable on whole thing and she was much calmer than the first vet I saw.

The downstairs is being ripped apart and I’m just stressed out. I really don’t like my schedule getting changed. All you OCD and bi-polar people can relate.

Stop Test-Driving Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend

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I originally saw this here, but got the article from here.

Hopefully this will be helpful when my son gets to date, in the year 2027 🙂

Stop Test-Driving Your Girlfriend
by Michael Lawrence

“How do I know if she’s the one?”I can’t think of a question I encounter more often among single Christian men. The point of the question is clear enough. But a rich irony dwells beneath the question. In a culture that allows us to choose the person we’re going to marry, no one wants to make the wrong choice. Especially if, as Christians, we understand that the choice we make is a choice for life.The question is not merely ironic. If what you’re after is a marriage that will glorify God and produce real joy for you and your bride, it’s also the wrong question. That’s because the unstated goal of the question is “How do I know if she’s the one … for me.”

The question frames the entire decision-making process in fundamentally self-oriented — if not downright selfish — terms. And it puts the woman on an extended trial to determine whether or not she meets your needs, fits with your personality, and satisfies your desires. It places you at the center of the process, in the role of a window-shopper, or consumer at a buffet. In this scenario you remain unexamined, unquestioned, and unassailable — sovereign in your tastes and preferences and judgments.

The problem of course is that as a single Christian man, not only are you going to marry a sinner, but you are a sinner as well.

From a consumeristic perspective, no woman on this planet is ever going to perfectly meet your specifications. What’s more, your unexamined requirements for a spouse are inevitably twisted by your own sinful nature. The Bible reminds us that though our marriages are to be pictures of the gospel relationship between Christ and the church, none of us get to marry Jesus. Instead, like Hosea, we all marry Gomer; that is to say, we all marry another sinner, whom God intends to use to refine and grow our faith in Jesus.

So what’s a guy to do?

Ask the right questions

To begin with, start with a different question. Instead of asking if she’s the one, you should ask yourself, “Am I the sort of man a godly woman would want to marry?” If you’re not, then you’d be better off spending less time evaluating the women around you, and more time developing the character of a disciple. Start by considering the characteristics of an elder that Paul lays out in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1, and work toward those.

Then you should ask another question: “What sort of qualities should I be looking for in a wife so that my marriage will be a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church?” If you’re not sure what those characteristics are, then spend some time reading Proverbs 31, Titus 2:3-5, 1 Peter 3:1-7 and Ephesians 5:22-33.

Once you’ve asked the right questions, and once you’ve found someone you suspect fits the biblical description of a godly wife, you now need to decide whether to get married. And men, though this is a big decision, it’s not a decision that should take too long. How long is too long for a dating relationship? The Bible doesn’t provide a timetable (after all, most marriages were arranged during Biblical times). But it does provide principles that point us in the direction of making a decision to marry or break up in the shortest appropriate time.

Think like a servant, not a consumer

In 1 Thessalonians 4:6, Paul warns the Thessalonian Christians against “taking advantage” of their brothers or sisters. The larger context in the first eight verses makes clear that what Paul primarily has in view is sexual immorality, in which you take from one another a physical intimacy not rightfully yours.

But the text also suggests that there are other ways you can take advantage of one another in a dating relationship. And one of the primary ways men do this is to elicit and enjoy all the benefits of unending companionship and emotional intimacy with their girlfriends without ever committing to the covenant relationship of marriage.

Too often in dating relationships we think and act like consumers rather than servants. And not very good consumers at that. After all, no one would ever go down to his local car dealership, take a car out for an extended test drive, park it in his garage, drive it back and forth to work for several weeks, maybe take it on vacation, having put lots of miles on it, and then take it back to the dealer and say, “I’m just not ready to buy a new car.”

But so often, that’s exactly the way men treat the women they’re dating. Endlessly “test driving” the relationship, without any real regard for the spiritual and emotional wear and tear they’re putting her through, all the while keeping their eyes out for a better model.

The Scriptures are clear. We are not to take advantage of one another in this way. Instead, as Paul says in Romans 13:10, “Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”

Remember that love is never easy

One of the myths out there is that if you just spend enough time searching, if you can just gather enough information, you’ll find a woman with whom marriage will be “easy.” The fact is, such a woman doesn’t exist, and if she did, she likely wouldn’t marry you. And that means that you don’t need as much information as you think you do.

No matter how long you’ve dated, everyone marries a stranger. That’s because fundamentally dating is an artificial arrangement in which you’re trying to be on your best behavior. Marriage on the other hand is real life. And it’s only in the context of day-in, day-out reality, with the vulnerability and permanence that marriage provides, that we learn what another person is really like. Some of the things we learn about each other aren’t easy. But who ever said that love and marriage were supposed to be easy?

Men, the point of marriage is that we learn to love our wives as Christ loved the church. Yes, as Revelation 21 and Ephesians 5tell us, one day, Christ’s bride will be perfectly beautiful, without spot or blemish, altogether lovely and loveable.

But the church is not there yet. First, Christ had to commit himself to us, even to death on a cross. This is the model we’re called to follow. It’s not an easy model, but it is worth it.

So your goal should not be to date her long enough until you’re confident marriage won’t be hard, but to date her just long enough to discern if you’re willing to love her sacrificially, and if she’s willing to respond to that kind of love.

Remember that to commit does not mean to settle

Does this mean you should just “settle” for the first Christian woman who comes along? No, not at all. You should be making this decision in light of the qualities held out in Scripture for a godly wife, and you should marry the godliest, most fruitful, most spiritually beautiful woman you can convince to have you.

But you also need to be aware that you live in a culture that says the ultimate good in life is to always keep your options open, and that any commitment is inevitably “settling” for less than you could have tomorrow. You must reject that kind of thinking for the worldly garbage that it is. Did Jesus Christ settle for the church? No, he loved the church, and gave his life as a ransom for her (Mark 10:45).

Marriage is fundamentally a means to glorify and serve God, not by finding someone who will meet our needs and desires, but by giving ourselves to another for their good. So if you find yourself hesitating about committing to a godly, biblically-qualified woman, then ask yourself, “Are my reasons biblical, or am I just afraid that if I commit, someone better will walk around the corner after it’s too late?” Consumers are always on the lookout for something better. Christ calls us to trust Him that in finding a wife, we have found “what is good and receive favor from the Lord” (Prov. 18:22).

Marry true beauty when you find it

Finally, the Scriptures call us to develop an attraction to true beauty. 1 Peter 3:3-6 describes the beautiful wife as a woman who has a gentle and quiet spirit, born out of her faith and hope in God, and displayed in her trusting submission to her husband. Men, is the presence of this kind of beauty the driving force for your sense of attraction to your girlfriend? Or have you made romantic attraction and “chemistry” the deciding issue?

Now don’t get me wrong. You should be physically attracted to the woman you marry. This is one of the ways marriage serves as a protection against sexual immorality (1 Cor. 7:3-5). But we get in trouble, both in dating and in marriage, when we make physical beauty and “chemistry” the threshold issue in the decision to commit (or remain committed) to marriage.

Physical beauty in a fallen world is fading and transient. What’s more, the world narrowly defines beauty as the body of a teenager, and scorns the beauty of motherhood and maturity. But in which “body” is your wife going to spend most of her years with you? Personalities also change and mature, and what seems like “chemistry” when you’re 22 might feel like superficial immaturity 10 years later. Even over the course of a long courtship and engagement in the prime of your youth, physical attraction and chemistry are sure to go through ups and downs. We must resist the temptation to value the wrong kind of beauty.

No one lives in a perpetual state of “being in love.” But in marriage, our love is called to “always protect, always trust, always hope, always persevere” (1 Cor. 13:7). If mere worldly, physical beauty is the main thing attracting our love, then our love will prove as ephemeral as that beauty. But if we have developed an attraction to true beauty, then we have nothing to fear. Marry a vibrant growing Christian woman, and you have Christ’s promise that he is committed to making her more and more beautiful, spiritually beautiful, with every passing day (Rom. 8:28; Phil. 1:6).

More questions to ask

How then do you decide, in a reasonable amount of time, whether or not to marry the woman you’re dating? Let me conclude with some more questions you should be asking.

Generally speaking, will you be able to serve God better together than apart?
Do you desire to fulfill the biblical role of a husband outlined in Ephesians 5:22-33 with this specific woman? Do you want to love her sacrificially?
Does this relationship spur you on in your Christian discipleship, or does it dull and distract your interest in the Lord and his people? Are you more or less eager to study God’s word, and pray, and give yourself in service as a result of time spent together?
Do you think she will make a good discipler of your children?
What do other mature Christian friends and family members say about your relationship? Do they see a relationship that is spiritually solid and God-glorifying?
If you can’t answer the questions at all, then you may need to spend some more time getting to know each other. But if you can answer them (and others like them) either positively or negatively, then it’s time to stop test-driving the relationship and either commit to marriage or let someone else have the opportunity.

Copyright © 2006 Michael Lawrence. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

 

Blessings, The Home Engineer AKA Momma

Doing Nothing Equals Something

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  Forgive us our debts…Matthew 6:12 

 In fact, we can sin against God by omission — by doing nothing.  As James 4:17 tells us, “Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins.”  Therefore, if we are involved in a conflict and neglect opportunities to serve others (by failing to bear their burdens, gently restore them, etc.), we are guilty of sin in God’s eyes.

Taken from  The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 119

Food for Thought

By neglecting to do good, we end up neglecting God.

Have you ever been in a situation and you just knew you were being asked to do something good, say something good, be something good — but you didn’t do it, say it, or be it?  No doubt we all have.  In the wake of those moments, we often feel like we’ve neglected someone.  But how often do we live with the awareness that we’ve neglected God in those moments?

When we do something unto the least of our brothers or sisters, we’re doing it as unto the Lord.  And when we don’t something unto the least of our brothers and sisters, we’re not doing it unto the Lord.  Omission by another name is neglect.  And neglect in God’s eyes is sin. Sincerely confess it to God, and ask him to help you to “do good” in that relationship in the future.

 

My omission as of late is to not talk about God to non-believers. I talked with my son about this. The neighbor girl is a good example, as is his cousins, who we see on holidays. And his gramma, my mom, who he loves unconditionally.

BUT I can talk blue in the face to him about it, but he needs to see me do it.

I need to talk to my Tupperware lady, the guy down the street who dislikes Christians, the neighbor girls parents, my mother and family. These are actual people who we already have relationships with. Should be easy, right?

I also have a hard time just talking to strangers, being nice and kind. Going out of my way to be the first to smile, say hello, how are you sort of thing. I have fought this for a long time, the reason?

My mother talks to strangers and it always embarrassed me, from the earliest times I can remember it until now. Maybe it was the fact she would tell embarrassing things about me to strangers. Maybe it was because I saw the looks on the people faces behind my mothers back.

Anyway, on Monday, I resolved to talk to people.

1. the young guy at grocery store standing outside looking a bit forlorn, I said Hi, how are you today?.

2. Asked the girl with the crutches and cast on her foot at the craft store what happened to her foot. Of course that led into a conversation about my foot and how it was broken. (she broke hers doing gymnastics)

3. a woman in line before me was buying at least 600 t-shirts, they all had the security tags on them and it was taking some time. So I asked her what she was buying them for and I dropped my stuff and started helping the cashier take off the tags while she rang up. She was buying the t-shirts to send to Mexico for poor kids and we then talked about sending bibles to foreign countries.  She thanked me for the help and I told her ‘bless you’.

My son was with me during all these exchanges and I asked him what he thought. He was ok with all of them except asking the girl about the foot, because I mentioned that he and I were wrestling when it happened to me. (Did I mention the girl was about my sons age, kinda cute, too) 😉

So, it’s pretty painful for me to get out of my comfort zone, so to speak. I’d much rather just hang my head, not get in anybodies way and go about my business of the day.

Is this how Jesus is telling us how to live?

What is your sin of omission?

Blessings, The Home Engineer

 

 

 

 

He Was So Cute When He Was Young…

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This is a note my son gave his dad, years ago. Hubby found it while cleaning out his desk, as he is moving to a different part of the company.

Dear Daddy,

I love you and I think you’re the best daddy in the world.

This is a verse I made up for you.

For God so loved Jim, he sent his son Jesse. Jim and Jesse lived happy with a mom and wife forever.