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Words and Meanings: ‘Committed’ Suicide

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Couple of things I have been contemplating and can’t post on my FB business page:

One of them is: Proponents of suicide prevention are wanting to change the wording of ‘committing’ suicide to ….died by suicide…..

So I looked up committed or commit

com·mit·ted
kəˈmidəd/
adjective
adjective: committed
feeling dedication and loyalty to a cause, activity, or job; wholeheartedly dedicated.
“a committed reformer”
com·mit
kəˈmit/Submit
verb
past tense: committed; past participle: committed
1.
carry out or perpetrate (a mistake, crime, or immoral act).
“he committed an uncharacteristic error”
synonyms: carry out, do, perpetrate, engage in, enact, execute, effect, accomplish; More
2.
pledge or bind (a person or an organization) to a certain course or policy.
“they were reluctant to commit themselves to an opinion”
synonyms: pledge, devote, apply, give, dedicate
“they committed themselves to the project”
pledge or set aside (resources) for future use.
“manufacturers will have to commit substantial funds to developing new engines”
be in a long-term emotional relationship with (someone).
be dedicated to (something).
“we must be committed to peace”
synonyms: devout, devoted, dedicated, loyal, faithful, staunch, firm, steadfast, unwavering, wholehearted, keen, passionate, ardent, fervent, sworn, pledged; More
antonyms: apathetic
3.
send, entrust, or consign, in particular.
synonyms: entrust, consign, assign, deliver, give, hand over, relinquish; formal commend
“she was committed to their care”
consign (someone) officially to prison, especially on remand.
“he was committed to prison for contempt of court”
synonyms: consign, send, deliver, confine
“the judge committed him to prison”
send (a person or case) for trial.
send (someone) to be confined in a psychiatric hospital.
“he had been committed for treatment”
synonyms: hospitalize, confine, institutionalize, put away; certify
“her husband had her committed”
transfer something to (a state or place).
“he composed a letter but didn’t commit it to paper”
refer (a legislative bill) to a committee.

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http://www.suicide.org/suicide-is-not-a-crime.html

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But, look at the synonyms: carry out, do, perpetrate, engage in, enact, execute, effect, accomplish. Some do pose a picture of crime, but some don’t.  The committed isn’t all negative.

Persons who die by suicide were actually committed, committed to ending their lives, sorrow, pain and frustration. They executed a desperate act upon themselves. They accomplished their means to an end. They carried out an act of self destruction.

I can understand taking it off the legal books as criminal, one can’t prosecute a dead person and if they attempt but do not succeed, they need help, not jail.

But the word committed isn’t just a negative legal word. Both committed and died by suicide are fine. It is an act that has to be committed, accomplished or executed.

…With all this being said, I am by no means arguing about this touchy subject. I was curious as to the meaning of the words we, as a culture, are trying to change to make them more palatable.

I have tried to commit suicide and know others that have too. It is a multi-faceted metal health issue that needs more attention brought to it with readily available resources for those who are suffering from it.

If you found this page and are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please do not worry about the words used to describe it, PLEASE DO find help! now. You are loved and your life is worth living.

Some resources below and they will have more also.

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http://www.crisistextline.org/

https://teenlineonline.org/

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

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How to Fiercely Love and Protect Someone in Difficult Times

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Remember you cannot control anyone else. Just YOURself.

1. Cry with them

2. Laugh with them

3. Listen to them

4. Keep your mouth shut.

a. Seriously. Unless they specifically ask for opinion, advice, help. Keep it zipped.

b. Be prepared to have kind, good and sane advice for them.

5. Follow this easy guide…

1 Corinthians 13  (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind.

It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 

6. Keep in touch. Send a note, a card, encourage. Keep doing it. Especially with a death, people forget that the survivor still lives and has to go on. Fiercely loving them means being in it for the long haul.

7. Empathy: : the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also : the capacity for this.

8. Take into consideration [empathy] what they are going through. Emotions run high and they are scared, sad, mad, depressed, sometimes in a chokingly exhausting way.

9. Offer to help [and only help them in #5 ways] Bring a meal, babysit, run errands, go to mtgs with them, sit in mourning with them, forgive the people they forgive, love the people they choose to love.

10. Keep your mouth shut. Keep your hands and feet close. Delete all distractions from your life that interfere with fiercely loving your friend/family member.

11. You can only control YOURself.

12. Last but never ever least. Pray. If you are not a praying person. Do whatever, meditate, light candles, etc. Just do it.

Please feel free to comment below if you have any other advice for fiercely loving others in difficult times.

*Dedicated to those who have suffered loss. I love you.

GUILTY FEELINGS…. Whoa whoa whoa….

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The 6 Different Types Of Procrastinators

Procrastination tips for everyone:

– Get help from others (professors, friends, family) to stay accountable.

– Keep a daily journal to evaluate your use of time.

– Practice visualization. Envision the changes you want to make in your life — how it feels to make the change, and what your life looks like after the changes are made.

– Create a timeline for completing a task or achieving a goal, with specific, short-term steps along the way.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So, feeling guilty. Guilty that I have a few hours off this afternoon and just want to go to bed.

Guilty that I came home and didn’t even let the dogs out of the bedroom, so I could relax. And blog.

Guilty that I don’t make more time for volunteering stuff. [but my schedule is so crazy it is hard to plan]

Guilty that I am not upstairs knitting and doing school work.

Guilty about not having enough gumption to go pull weeds. [oh, it is raining now]

I am a perfectionist procrastinator with a dash of defier and overdoer.

Guilty that I have too many irons in the fire and hoping i don’t mess any of them up.

Guilty that I have a great life but always think I need to change something, so something different, focus on the bad.

Guilty that I asked the doctor to change my meds.

Guilty that I am worried about some health issues, when others have it way worse than me. Dying, losing family, homeless, chronic illness, etc.

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Why Do I Still Feel?

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Why is it every morning I wake up with this low-level feeling of sadness and despair? My life is good, basically, I have worries, but nothing I can control.

I have a house, a job, a few friends, a family (albeit a dysfunctional one), nothing that requires this level of sadness.

I used to be a badass… Told myself and others that I was never going to let anyone hurt me, again. Keep the emotions inside, emotions were for babies.

But as I get older, as I found and lost more people, found and grasped onto God,  as I gained a husband, a baby, an extended family, I realized my real self is a ball of mushy disgusting feelings. My heart feels, too much. And I let it. Damn it.

{ I write this one morning and in the evening at my Jobs for Life class, we get to read this}

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Psalm 51

Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your steadfast love;
according to your abundant mercy
blot out my transgressions.
2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity,
and cleanse me from my sin!
3 For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is ever before me.
4 Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight,
so that you may be justified in your words
and blameless in your judgment.
5 Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity,
and in sin did my mother conceive me.
6 Behold, you delight in truth in the inward being,
and you teach me wisdom in the secret heart.
7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean;
wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
8 Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones that you have broken rejoice.
9 Hide your face from my sins,
and blot out all my iniquities.
10 Create in me a clean heart, O God,
and renew a right spirit within me.
11 Cast me not away from your presence,
and take not your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
and uphold me with a willing spirit.
13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways,
and sinners will return to you.
14 Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God,
O God of my salvation,
and my tongue will sing aloud of your righteousness.
15 O Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will declare your praise.
16 For you will not delight in sacrifice, or I would give it;
you will not be pleased with a burnt offering.
17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.
18 Do good to Zion in your good pleasure;
build up the walls of Jerusalem;
19 then will you delight in right sacrifices,
in burnt offerings and whole burnt offerings;
then bulls will be offered on your altar.

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Henry Rollins: Asshole or Straight Talker? Depends on Your Emotions

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A FB convo with my brother : Warning language!

Mat Hayward / Shutterstock.com This morning Henry Rollins, the former Black Flag singer turned LA Weekly columnist, wrote a piece called “Fuck Suicide.” Judging by…
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  • Dan Well…if my choice is between him and some hack writer at the stranger – ‘ol Hank will be my man every time.
  • Dave· Friends with Dan 

    Henry hosts this show on H2, it’s a good history show:
    http://www.history.com/…/10-things…/cast/henry-rollins

    www.history.com

    Meet Henry Rollins, punk rock icon, spoken word poet, actor, author and the new See More
    Dave · Friends with Dan

  • Kristina’s Critter Care
    he only says what most of us think, depression is a bitch and so is suicide. depression makes you think your kids would be better off without you. depression makes you think that suicide is the only way out. But it is not.
    and when he say ‘pull yourself up’ he means the depressed person needs to want help to do the better thing. to live. it’s like drug addiction, one can’t do anything to help the drug user unless he himself wants help. and to top it off, suicide is an easier way out, its so fucking hard to make the decision to get better, to go thru the pain of finding out what is wrong, WORK thru that wrong and every day walk the process of getting better…. its hard.
    both Dan and I have walked thru it, we are still here fighting, perhaps every hour to be better FOR our kids.
    Little did I know when I reared back to punch my 5 year old in the face, it would be my breaking point to finally seek help. To get better. ok, off my soap box.
    Dan: There’s a big difference between saying “get over it”, as people seem to think he was saying – and saying “be a responsible adult and get it dealt with”, like he really seems to have been saying.