Monthly Archives: February 2012

The [Our] Church has Failed the [our] Youth


This might be kind of rambling.. so bear with me.

At baptisms  in our church, we baptize infants, and we as a congregation stand and pledge to help the parents to ‘raise’ the child in the church, in the ways of the Lord.

We do a terrible job at keeping that promise.

Oh, when they are cute and little and running around snotty nosed and ruddy cheeked we help care for them.

We help hold them, feed them, school them and feed them the gospel message. We may pray for them, ask them how they are doing in school and even get to mentor them.

Then something weird happens when they turn into a teenager. Mostly I think it’s the adults fault, we don’t know how to talk to them, they aren’t very receptive and they sometimes smell.

Then the late teens hit and they become sullen, distant, maybe get into stuff we as adults don’t know how to help with [from homework…to drugs] they have their own weird language and their own phones. Their own opinions sprout up and they are not the good little kids we used to know.

Many of us adults forget how it was when we were teens. I know I have come to remember few selective things about my youth. I seem to remember I was a pretty obedient kid, But ask my mom and you’d think she raised a different kid. Go figure.

We, as a church, have had several of our youth fall away as they grow up. I don’t really think other churches are too different from us, so I’m not just pointing fingers at us.

A couple fell into drugs, quite a few fall into promiscuity/adultery/fornication, and 3 into homosexuality. Where have the grown-ups been during all this?

Well, in our case, I really have no idea.

A hand full of close friends ask about our son at church and promise to pray for him and us. Many ask at random how he is doing. One lady send him a card a year ago and one of my friends wrote him a note telling him how she failed him at her promise to help raise him up.

No one else has called him or us, not one man has jumped in to be a mentor [the pastor has tried to help, but that’s another post for another time]

What the boy needs is people who can stand up for the truth and talk to him. Are they going to get a warm reception from the  kid? Well, he won’t be rude to them, and he may not agree with them, but DAMN IT, no one has even tried.

I am NOT saying it’s the churches responsibility to raise the children

I am NOT saying our church is any different from any other

I am saying we suck at taking care of our own. No wonder the world looks at us like we are hypocrites. We are.

I am NOT a Vegan…Unfortunately


I really really try to be. But alas, animal products and animal by-products permeate everything we eat, see, touch and wear.

Ice Breakers Ice Cubes gum has gelatin in it.

My specially made foot inserts are made of leather.

My Vitamin B3 is made from lanolin, the oil from sheep wool.

My work/tenny shoes have bits of leather in them.

That 5 hour energy drink my hubby made me drink last night is full of animal by-products.

Anything we eat that is processed contains [mostly] dairy.

Anything that is cooked on a restaurant griddle uses butter.

Even the ‘vegan’ cheese has casein in it.

Glossy candy is coated with shellac from the Lac beetle and anything colored red is made from bugs and silk from worms.

Not to mention all the things with honey, lactose and butter fat.


All long as world eats animals, there will be plenty of by-products left to add into anything and everything.

So for now I stake my claim in vegetarianism.

I’m healthier, happier, my fingernails and hair grow fast and come in thicker. [hey, without that so-called dairy calcium!!]

Eat less meat. It does a body good.