A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11
When we overlook the wrongs of others, we are imitating God’s extraordinary forgiveness toward us: “The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever; he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities” (Ps. 103:8-10).
Adapted from The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 82.
Food for Thought
Want to experience some gains, fast? Well, you probably experienced some gains over the holidays as the candies, cookies, and festive meals took their toll. But that’s not what we’re talking about. Instead, try this no-fail exercise.
You’ve seen lists of New Year’s Resolutions, right? You’ve probably even crafted a few yourself. Have you ever seen this one on anyone’s list? “I resolve this New Year to overlook more offenses.” Yeah, that’s a rare one.
But the writer of Proverbs indicates that when we overlook an offense, it adds directly to our glory. We experience a gain. And since the only glory we will ever have is a reflection of God’s, those overlooked offenses are adding to the glory of the Most High. God experiences a “gain.”
“What kind of gain?” you ask. By exercising our patience and overlooking offenses, we are increasing His Name and Fame throughout the land. We are drawing the eyes of men and women to Him. We are imitating his compassion. We are being peacemakers, getting in shape for the Kingdom that is coming!