Salvation; Who is in Control of Those? Part 3


Please see part 1 and part 2 .


I was watching this movie the other night on the local TBN channel called Gold Through the Fire. Amazing but cheesy show (aren’t all Christian movies?)

A Russian teen comes to America to escape persecution but the star of the show was the young boy in the family that takes him in. This boy was a total rebel on the inside, the family seemed like this perfect Christian well-to-do family and this kid goes all psycho on the family telling them he never believed in God, he just won all those trophies in bible memorization cuz the family wanted him to, etc. The Russian kid breaks thru all the kids’ boundaries and anger and confusion and he gives his life to the Lord.

So that said, it got me thinking about the parable of the 2 sons, let me find it for you:

28 “What do you think? A man had two sons. And he went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work in the vineyard today.’ 29 And he answered, ‘I will not,’ but afterward he changed his mind and went. 30 And he went to the other son and said the same. And he answered, ‘I go, sir,’ but did not go. 31 Which of the two did the will of his father?” They said, “The first.” Jesus said to them, “Truly, I say to you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes go into the kingdom of God before you. 32 For John came to you in the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes believed him. And even when you saw it, you did not afterward change your minds and believe him. Matthew 21

Me and the boy talked about this verse and I asked him if he thought a friend of his was like son 1 or son 2. He didn’t know. I asked him what he truly thought abut this Christianity thing.

He stated he didn’t like it when he was 5 or 6 years old. Didn’t like sitting in church. We don’t have kids church. We all sit together as a family and hear the same sermon. (not necessarily a reformed thing, but most reformed church do this)

I told him I didn’t blame him, I didn’t like it either; it is hard as a kid to sit for all that time and listen patiently. It was hard for me coming out of a drunken and medicinal stupor to do it also.

Now he believes. No wait, he used the word know. So I asked him with my heart in my throat, do you believe in this stuff or just go along with it because we do? He says he believes in God.

We talked about how people say they know God exists but they don’t surrender themselves to it, they don’t walk the walk, talk the talk. They don’t obey the Lord.

So after after 2000 words, what am I getting at?


Back to my original friend whom I so eloquently butted into her business…

I guess what I want to tell her is we are not in control of someone else’s salvation. We can only work with the Lord through our own sanctification process. It just may be that part of our sanctifying process is having a prodigal partner or child or an unsaved one.

If we have tried for years to get the other one to just believe and they are not showing the signs of a fruitful Christian walk (that is you do not see the fruit of their belief in God) or they are fighting you all the way to the church every week.


Just stop and pray for them. Let God do the work. Love them, nurture them and lead by example   1 Peter 3:1-2.

Side note; sometimes we want another to believe so it’s easier on us. Think about that. The Great Lord knows better than we do what best for them. And us. Will we like it? Not most of the time.

That’s sanctification, my friend.

What do we have to look forward to after all these trying struggles with our children, family, spouses and friends?

Eternal life with the King of Kings.

22 But now being made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life.23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 6



6 responses »

  1. Manipulation, guilt trips, and nagging may shame your older compliant children into going through the motions but I’m convinced will not produce a grace filled heart…a heart motivated by legalism (maybe) but deff. not the way I would want to be treated if I were searching. Good post.
    ~~thank you, Doug

  2. Excellent end to this series. I couldn’t agree more.
    ~~thank you, i’ll get back to you on the “gods chosen” comment soon. Busy weekend ahead!

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