I WANTED SOME DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES ON FORGIVING OTHERS AND WHERE TO GO BUT THE INTERNET TO FIND IT, THESE ARE JUST A SMALL SAMPLING AND I TRIED TO GET THE BEST REPRESENTATION OF EACH, IF ANYONE HAS COMMENTS PLEASE LEAVE THEM. (PLAY NICE OR THEY WILL BE DELETED 🙂 )
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“Please put the attention on the breath.
Have forgiveness in your heart for anything you think you’ve done wrong . Forgive yourself for all the past omissions and commissions. They are long gone. Understand that you were a different person and this one is forgiving that one that you were. Feel that forgiveness filling you and enveloping you with a sense of warmth and ease.
Think of your parents. Forgive them for anything you have ever blamed them for. Understand that they too are different now. Let this forgiveness fill them, surround them, knowing in your heart that this is your most wonderful way of togetherness.
Think of your nearest and dearest people . Forgive them for anything that you think they have done wrong or are doing wrong at this time. Fill them with your forgiveness. Let them feel that you accept them. Let that forgiveness fill them. Realizing that this is your expression of love.
Now think of your friends. Forgive them for anything you have disliked about them. Let your forgiveness reach out to them, so that they can be filled with it, embraced by it.
Think of the people you know, whoever they might be, and forgive them all for whatever it is that you have blamed them for, that you have judged them for, that you have disliked. Let your forgiveness fill their hearts, surround them, envelope them, be your expression of love for them.
Now think of any special person whom you really need to forgive. Towards whom you still have resentment, rejection, dislike. Forgive him or her fully. Remember that everyone has dukkha. Let this forgiveness come from your heart. Reach out to that person, complete and total.
Think of any one person, or any situation, or any group of people whom you are condemning, blaming, disliking. Forgive them, completely. Let your forgiveness be your expression of unconditional love. They may not do the right things. Human beings have dukkha. And your heart needs the forgiveness in order to have purity of love.
Have a look again and see whether there’s anyone or anything, any where in the world, towards whom you have blame or condemnation. And forgive the people or the person, so that there is no separation your heart.
Now put your attention back on yourself. And recognize the goodness in you. The effort you are making. Feel the warmth and ease that comes from forgiveness.”
May all beings have forgiveness in their hearts! From here:
Christian Science: Forgive and move forward
Forgive and move forward Forgiving in the way Jesus did, brings healing to body and soul in this day and age.
Forgiveness, whether you�re asking for it or are expressing it to someone else, promotes reconciliation. It�s like removing a roadblock so you can freely enjoy life�s normal state: goodness.
Question #4. How important or central is forgiveness to the Islamic tradition?
Forgiveness is selfishness. If one desires to be forgiven for his offenses he must learn to forgive others. Especially, if one seeks forgiveness from God, he should learn to forgive others for their offenses. If one desires that God overlook his weaknesses, he should learn to overlook weaknesses of others.
Forgiveness is important for two reasons:
- Very importantly, for the after-life or the life hereafter. One forgives to seek forgiveness. Seeking forgiveness is a sign of humility and forgiving others is a sign of magnanimity.
- Seeking forgiveness and forgiving others brings happiness in the worldly life – it’s a psychological thing. In addition, forgiving improves relations with people by bringing good reputation and respect.
In the ancient world tribes and families carries on blood feud for generations because they could not forgive. Islam taught a middle path between turning the other cheek and never ending blood feud, that is, revenge to the extent harm done is allowed but forgiveness is preferred. Allah said in the Qur’an:
“The recompense for an injury is an injury equal thereto (in degree): but if a person forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is due from Allah: for (Allah) loves not those who do wrong.”
The Qur’an 42:40 (A. Yusuf Ali)
“But [remember that an attempt at] requiting evil may, too, become an evil: hence whoever pardons [his foe] and makes peace, his reward rests with God – for, verily, He does not love evildoers.”
The Qur’an 42:40 (Muhammad Asad)
Both translations of the same verse are correct. One gives more literal meaning (Yusuf Ali) and the other gives more interpretive meaning (Muhammad Asad). It is allowed to take revenge of an offense only to the extent of damage done but not to be exceeded. However, there is a great probability of exceeding the damage, thereby, the victim becomes an offender. Forgiveness is a protection and brings great reward from Allah.
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Forgive Us Our Trespasses
From the Catechism of the Catholic Church, SimplifiedForgiving and Being Forgiven (2838 )
This petition is not listed with the first three because of an astonishing requirement. Our sins won’t be forgiven unless we forgive others. Our petition seeks a future good (our forgiveness). However, the word “as” shows that our own forgiving must happen now.
“And Forgive Us Our Trespasses…” (2839)
When we begged that God’s name be holy, we also asked that we be made holy. Although clothed in baptismal grace, we do not cease to sin. In this new petition, we are as the prodigal son and the tax collectors. We begin with this confession because in Christ “we have redemption, the forgiveness of our sins” (Col 1:14). In the sacraments, we have the efficacious sign that we received this forgiveness.
Forgiving Hearts (2840-2841)
Christ’s mercy cannot penetrate our hearts if we have not forgiven those who sinned against us. Love is indivisible. We cannot love God (whom we cannot see) and not love others (whom we do see). By refusing to forgive others, our hearts become hardened to God’s mercy. However, confessing our sins opens us to God’s grace.
Jesus says explicitly “If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions” (Mt 6:14-15).
Jesus’ Use of “As” (2842)
Jesus frequently used the word “as.” He told us to “Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Mt 5:48), to love “as I have loved you” (Jn 13:34), and to be merciful “as your Father is merciful” (Lk 6:36). To act as Jesus, the believer must vitally participate in the life and love of God. We must have the mind of Christ “forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave us” (Eph 4:32).
Jesus’ Parable (2843)
The Lord ended his parable of the merciless servant by saying, “So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart” (Mt 18:35). Sins are bound and loosed only “in the depths of our heart,” where the Holy Spirit can turn injury into compassion and hurt into intercession.
To Enemies (2844)
This forgiveness must extend to enemies. Only hearts attuned to God’s compassion can receive the gift of prayer. Forgiveness proclaims to the world that love is stronger than sin. Only by love can men be reconciled with God and with one another.
To Everything (2845)
Divine forgiveness has no limits in forgiving “sins” (Lk 11:4) or “debts” (Mt 6:12). We are all debtors owing to no one, “except to love one another” (Rom 13:8). “God does not accept the sacrifice of a sower of division, but commands that he depart from the altar so he may first be reconciled with his brother” (St. Cyprian).
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Blessings while you muse upon forgiveness….
Dear Father, God of forgiveness,
Father, help me, when someone sins, to encourage him or her to repent, then to forgive and comfort that person in your love.
Help all Christians to affirm such loving forgiveness and to comfort each other so that Satan will not gain the advantage over us, for we are not ignorant that his designs are that we should be unforgiving.
In the name of Jesus and in full confidence of salvation through him I ask all these things. Amen.