The Four Promises Of Forgiveness Apply To You, Too!



I once heard a joke that described a frequent failure in forgiving. A woman went to her pastor for advice on improving her marriage. When the pastor asked what her greatest complaint was, she replied, “Every time we get into a fight, my husband gets historical.” When her pastor said, “You must mean hysterical,” she responded, “I mean exactly what I said; he keeps a mental record of everything I’ve done wrong, and whenever he’s mad, I get a history lesson!”

Taken from  The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 207

Food for Thought

Take a moment today to remember the Four Promises of Forgiveness:

  1. I will not dwell on this incident.
  2. I will not bring up this incident again and use it against you.
  3. I will not talk to others about this incident.
  4. I will not let this incident stand between us or hinder our personal relationship.

Then take a moment to remember something else: This is the way God forgives you. It’s natural for us to read the Four Promises of Forgiveness as another set of laws to which we’re presently failing to live up; however, the gospel reminds us that they should be read first and foremost as God’s commitment to us because of the sacrifice of his son.

That commitment says that he will never “get historical” in bringing up sins for which we have been forgiven! 

Is there an area in life where you feel condemned even though you’ve genuinely repented before God? Take a moment to hear God speaking the Four Promises of Forgiveness to you with regard to that particular issue. As you read them again, try adding your name to the beginning of each promise as a reminder that God speaks them personally to you.

Remember Romans 8:1 applies to you, not just other Christians: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”!  When you accept this and apply it to your own life, prepare to be pleasantly surprised how much easier it will become to apply the Four Promises of Forgiveness to others who have hurt you!


So how well are we doing on this?

This summer something happened to my family that hurt, some very public ‘mocking’ as it were.

I cried, we talked about it and decided it wasn’t meant to hurt, it was meant in fun, but alas, it wasn’t fun. for us.

So, I have had this in draft for awhile, and looking at it again, I realize I haven’t been very good at forgiving.

I’ve done pretty good with the first 3, but the last one, I just can’t seem to ‘let it go’.

My attitude towards the people who did this, just isn’t the same. I don’t think they have changed their attitude toward me, but I just kind of avoid them, or I do not go out of my way to speak to them.

With time the whole incident will be forgotten, and my heart will soften. I must keep my eyes, heart and mind focused on The One who heals all hurts, who sanctifies all of His followers, who loves all His children.

Blessings, Kristina

Ephesians 1:7 In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace 8 which He lavished on us.

Colossians 1:13 For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

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