Monthly Archives: November 2007

We Are Earthlings


I cried and cried and cried watching this for 2 days.

and here

I have watched animals being skinned alive, science being tested on them, bull killing, animals used for entertainment,

hides being made into jackets, pigs, cows, birds, sea-life being brutally killed for our dinner plates.

I have watched how we humans dump animal bodies, blood and animal feces into the beautiful ocean.

I have watched how greed, desire, lust and knowledge from humans dictate how we treat animals.

I have never been so saddened, disgusted and heart broken as I am right now. Ever.

Until we, as humans, stop desiring meat, leather and fur the killing of animals will go on.

Until we, as humans, stop desiring entertainment w/animals, the injuring/torture/killing will go on.

In the past couple days I have been watching this horrific video, my thoughts go back to;

If humans were not on this planet, would any animal out-number, over-power, needlessly kill another and disrupt the order of life?

My answer is always comes to no, the animals would live in perfect harmony

And if that is so, humans are what’s wrong with the imbalance of this earth.

What can we do to stop it?

What can one person do?

Where should one even start?

What does the bible say about this? Read the rest of this entry

Musings on…Integrity



Main Entry:
Middle English integrite, from Middle French & Latin; Middle French integrité, from Latin integritat-, integritas, from integr-, integer entire
14th century

1 : firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptibility

 2 : an unimpaired condition : soundness

3 : the quality or state of being complete or undivided : completeness

synonyms see honesty

AND Unabridged (v 1.1)



1. adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
2. the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished: to preserve the integrity of the empire.
3. a sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition: the integrity of a ship’s hull.

1. rectitude, probity, virtue. See honor.


Integrity is only in the Old Testament Read the rest of this entry

Stop Test-Driving Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend


I originally saw this here, but got the article from here.

Hopefully this will be helpful when my son gets to date, in the year 2027 🙂

Stop Test-Driving Your Girlfriend
by Michael Lawrence

“How do I know if she’s the one?”I can’t think of a question I encounter more often among single Christian men. The point of the question is clear enough. But a rich irony dwells beneath the question. In a culture that allows us to choose the person we’re going to marry, no one wants to make the wrong choice. Especially if, as Christians, we understand that the choice we make is a choice for life.The question is not merely ironic. If what you’re after is a marriage that will glorify God and produce real joy for you and your bride, it’s also the wrong question. That’s because the unstated goal of the question is “How do I know if she’s the one … for me.”

The question frames the entire decision-making process in fundamentally self-oriented — if not downright selfish — terms. And it puts the woman on an extended trial to determine whether or not she meets your needs, fits with your personality, and satisfies your desires. It places you at the center of the process, in the role of a window-shopper, or consumer at a buffet. In this scenario you remain unexamined, unquestioned, and unassailable — sovereign in your tastes and preferences and judgments.

The problem of course is that as a single Christian man, not only are you going to marry a sinner, but you are a sinner as well.

From a consumeristic perspective, no woman on this planet is ever going to perfectly meet your specifications. What’s more, your unexamined requirements for a spouse are inevitably twisted by your own sinful nature. The Bible reminds us that though our marriages are to be pictures of the gospel relationship between Christ and the church, none of us get to marry Jesus. Instead, like Hosea, we all marry Gomer; that is to say, we all marry another sinner, whom God intends to use to refine and grow our faith in Jesus.

So what’s a guy to do?

Ask the right questions

To begin with, start with a different question. Instead of asking if she’s the one, you should ask yourself, “Am I the sort of man a godly woman would want to marry?” If you’re not, then you’d be better off spending less time evaluating the women around you, and more time developing the character of a disciple. Start by considering the characteristics of an elder that Paul lays out in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1, and work toward those.

Then you should ask another question: “What sort of qualities should I be looking for in a wife so that my marriage will be a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church?” If you’re not sure what those characteristics are, then spend some time reading Proverbs 31, Titus 2:3-5, 1 Peter 3:1-7 and Ephesians 5:22-33.

Once you’ve asked the right questions, and once you’ve found someone you suspect fits the biblical description of a godly wife, you now need to decide whether to get married. And men, though this is a big decision, it’s not a decision that should take too long. How long is too long for a dating relationship? The Bible doesn’t provide a timetable (after all, most marriages were arranged during Biblical times). But it does provide principles that point us in the direction of making a decision to marry or break up in the shortest appropriate time.

Think like a servant, not a consumer

In 1 Thessalonians 4:6, Paul warns the Thessalonian Christians against “taking advantage” of their brothers or sisters. The larger context in the first eight verses makes clear that what Paul primarily has in view is sexual immorality, in which you take from one another a physical intimacy not rightfully yours.

But the text also suggests that there are other ways you can take advantage of one another in a dating relationship. And one of the primary ways men do this is to elicit and enjoy all the benefits of unending companionship and emotional intimacy with their girlfriends without ever committing to the covenant relationship of marriage.

Too often in dating relationships we think and act like consumers rather than servants. And not very good consumers at that. After all, no one would ever go down to his local car dealership, take a car out for an extended test drive, park it in his garage, drive it back and forth to work for several weeks, maybe take it on vacation, having put lots of miles on it, and then take it back to the dealer and say, “I’m just not ready to buy a new car.”

But so often, that’s exactly the way men treat the women they’re dating. Endlessly “test driving” the relationship, without any real regard for the spiritual and emotional wear and tear they’re putting her through, all the while keeping their eyes out for a better model.

The Scriptures are clear. We are not to take advantage of one another in this way. Instead, as Paul says in Romans 13:10, “Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”

Remember that love is never easy

One of the myths out there is that if you just spend enough time searching, if you can just gather enough information, you’ll find a woman with whom marriage will be “easy.” The fact is, such a woman doesn’t exist, and if she did, she likely wouldn’t marry you. And that means that you don’t need as much information as you think you do.

No matter how long you’ve dated, everyone marries a stranger. That’s because fundamentally dating is an artificial arrangement in which you’re trying to be on your best behavior. Marriage on the other hand is real life. And it’s only in the context of day-in, day-out reality, with the vulnerability and permanence that marriage provides, that we learn what another person is really like. Some of the things we learn about each other aren’t easy. But who ever said that love and marriage were supposed to be easy?

Men, the point of marriage is that we learn to love our wives as Christ loved the church. Yes, as Revelation 21 and Ephesians 5tell us, one day, Christ’s bride will be perfectly beautiful, without spot or blemish, altogether lovely and loveable.

But the church is not there yet. First, Christ had to commit himself to us, even to death on a cross. This is the model we’re called to follow. It’s not an easy model, but it is worth it.

So your goal should not be to date her long enough until you’re confident marriage won’t be hard, but to date her just long enough to discern if you’re willing to love her sacrificially, and if she’s willing to respond to that kind of love.

Remember that to commit does not mean to settle

Does this mean you should just “settle” for the first Christian woman who comes along? No, not at all. You should be making this decision in light of the qualities held out in Scripture for a godly wife, and you should marry the godliest, most fruitful, most spiritually beautiful woman you can convince to have you.

But you also need to be aware that you live in a culture that says the ultimate good in life is to always keep your options open, and that any commitment is inevitably “settling” for less than you could have tomorrow. You must reject that kind of thinking for the worldly garbage that it is. Did Jesus Christ settle for the church? No, he loved the church, and gave his life as a ransom for her (Mark 10:45).

Marriage is fundamentally a means to glorify and serve God, not by finding someone who will meet our needs and desires, but by giving ourselves to another for their good. So if you find yourself hesitating about committing to a godly, biblically-qualified woman, then ask yourself, “Are my reasons biblical, or am I just afraid that if I commit, someone better will walk around the corner after it’s too late?” Consumers are always on the lookout for something better. Christ calls us to trust Him that in finding a wife, we have found “what is good and receive favor from the Lord” (Prov. 18:22).

Marry true beauty when you find it

Finally, the Scriptures call us to develop an attraction to true beauty. 1 Peter 3:3-6 describes the beautiful wife as a woman who has a gentle and quiet spirit, born out of her faith and hope in God, and displayed in her trusting submission to her husband. Men, is the presence of this kind of beauty the driving force for your sense of attraction to your girlfriend? Or have you made romantic attraction and “chemistry” the deciding issue?

Now don’t get me wrong. You should be physically attracted to the woman you marry. This is one of the ways marriage serves as a protection against sexual immorality (1 Cor. 7:3-5). But we get in trouble, both in dating and in marriage, when we make physical beauty and “chemistry” the threshold issue in the decision to commit (or remain committed) to marriage.

Physical beauty in a fallen world is fading and transient. What’s more, the world narrowly defines beauty as the body of a teenager, and scorns the beauty of motherhood and maturity. But in which “body” is your wife going to spend most of her years with you? Personalities also change and mature, and what seems like “chemistry” when you’re 22 might feel like superficial immaturity 10 years later. Even over the course of a long courtship and engagement in the prime of your youth, physical attraction and chemistry are sure to go through ups and downs. We must resist the temptation to value the wrong kind of beauty.

No one lives in a perpetual state of “being in love.” But in marriage, our love is called to “always protect, always trust, always hope, always persevere” (1 Cor. 13:7). If mere worldly, physical beauty is the main thing attracting our love, then our love will prove as ephemeral as that beauty. But if we have developed an attraction to true beauty, then we have nothing to fear. Marry a vibrant growing Christian woman, and you have Christ’s promise that he is committed to making her more and more beautiful, spiritually beautiful, with every passing day (Rom. 8:28; Phil. 1:6).

More questions to ask

How then do you decide, in a reasonable amount of time, whether or not to marry the woman you’re dating? Let me conclude with some more questions you should be asking.

Generally speaking, will you be able to serve God better together than apart?
Do you desire to fulfill the biblical role of a husband outlined in Ephesians 5:22-33 with this specific woman? Do you want to love her sacrificially?
Does this relationship spur you on in your Christian discipleship, or does it dull and distract your interest in the Lord and his people? Are you more or less eager to study God’s word, and pray, and give yourself in service as a result of time spent together?
Do you think she will make a good discipler of your children?
What do other mature Christian friends and family members say about your relationship? Do they see a relationship that is spiritually solid and God-glorifying?
If you can’t answer the questions at all, then you may need to spend some more time getting to know each other. But if you can answer them (and others like them) either positively or negatively, then it’s time to stop test-driving the relationship and either commit to marriage or let someone else have the opportunity.

Copyright © 2006 Michael Lawrence. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.


Blessings, The Home Engineer AKA Momma

Musings on… Do Not Love the World

Do Not Love the World

 1 John 2: 15Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.

Definition ‘of the world’?

What is the world and what should we love and not love? It looks as if there are 3 things, big things. Read on ~

John Wesley states:

Verse 15. To you all, whether fathers, young men, or little children, I say, Love not the world – Pursue your victory by overcoming the world. If any man love the world -Seek happiness in visible things, he does not love God.

Verse 16. The desire of the flesh – Of the pleasure of the outward senses, whether of the taste, smell, or touch.

The desire of the eye – Of the pleasures of imagination, to which the eye chiefly is subservient; of that internal sense whereby we relish whatever is grand, new, or beautiful.

The pride of life – All that pomp in clothes, houses, furniture, equipage, manner of living, which generally procure honour from the bulk of mankind, and so gratify pride and vanity. It therefore directly includes the desire of praise, and, remotely, covetousness. All these desires are not from God, but from the prince of this world.

Verse 17. The world passeth away, and the desire thereof– That is, all that can gratify those desires passeth away with it. But he that doeth the will of God – That loves God, not the world. Abideth – In the enjoyment of what he loves, for ever.

Matthew Henry states:

Verses 15-17 The things of the world may be desired and possessed for the uses and purposes which God intended, and they are to be used by his grace, and to his glory; but believers must not seek or value them for those purposes to which sin abuses them. The world draws the heart from God; and the more the love of the world prevails, the more the love of God decays. The things of the world are classed according to the three ruling inclinations of depraved nature.

1. The lust of the flesh, of the body: wrong desires of the heart, the appetite of indulging all things that excite and inflame sensual pleasures.

2. The lust of the eyes: the eyes are delighted with riches and rich possessions; this is the lust of covetousness.

3. The pride of life: a vain man craves the grandeur and pomp of a vain-glorious life; this includes thirst after honour and applause.

The things of the world quickly fade and die away; desire itself will ere long fail and cease, but holy affection is not like the lust that passes away. The love of God shall never fail. Many vain efforts have been made to evade the force of this passage by limitations, distinctions, or exceptions. Many have tried to show how far we may be carnally-minded, and love the world; but the plain meaning of these verses cannot easily be mistaken. Unless this victory over the world is begun in the heart, a man has no root in himself, but will fall away, or at most remain an unfruitful professor. Yet these vanities are so alluring to the corruption in our hearts, that without constant watching and prayer, we cannot escape the world, or obtain victory over the god and prince of it.

Commentary Critical and Explanatory
on the Whole Bible

16. all that is in the world–can be classed under one or other of the three; the world contains these and no more.
lust of the flesh–that is, the lust which has its seat and source in our lower animal nature. Satan tried this temptation the first on Christ: Luke 4:3, “Command this stone that it be made bread.” Youth is especially liable to fleshly lusts.
lust of the eyes–the avenue through which outward things of the world, riches, pomp, and beauty, inflame us. Satan tried this temptation on Christ when he showed Him the kingdoms of the world in a moment. By the lust of the eyes David (2 Samuel 11:2) and Achan fell (Joshua 7:21). Compare David’s prayer, Psalms 119:37; Job’s resolve, Psalms 31:1, Matthew 5:28. The only good of worldly riches to the possessor is the beholding them with the eyes. Compare Luke 14:18, “I must go and SEE it.”
pride of life–literally, “arrogant assumption”: vainglorious display. Pride was Satan’s sin whereby he fell and forms the link between the two foes of man, the world (answering to “the lust of the eyes”) and the devil (as “the lust of the flesh” is the third foe). Satan tried this temptation on Christ in setting Him on the temple pinnacle that, in spiritual pride and presumption, on the ground of His Father’s care, He should cast Himself down. The same three foes appear in the three classes of soil on which the divine seed falls: the wayside hearers, the devil; the thorns, the world;the rocky undersoil, the flesh (Matthew 13:18-23, 4:3-8).

The world’s awful antitrinity, the “lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life,” similarly is presented in Satan’s temptation of Eve: “When she saw that the tree was good for food, pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise,Genesis 3:6 (one manifestation of “the pride of life,” the desire to know above what God has revealed, Colossians 2:8, the pride of unsanctified knowledge).
of–does not spring from “the Father” (used in relation to the preceding “little children,” 1 John 2:12, or “little sons”). He who is born of God alone turns to God; he who is of the world turns to the world; the sources of love to God and love to the world, are irreconcilably distinct.

Some cross references here

So, what are some of YOUR loves of the world?

I’d like to say I’m pretty good with these 3 things. I’d LIKE to say that…… but I fall very, very short.

I lust for food, to be warm and comfortable.

I lust for things of this world, be it yarn, tattoos, clothes, different color hair, different body shape, etc.

I desire praise, different body shape, acknowledgement of my accomplishments, Jeez, I blog, for crying out loud, what better way to get attention?  😉

So feed me, leave a comment, tell me your lusts of the world, but keep them PG13!

Blessings, Kristina

Heart to Heart Book by DM


Book Review


Well, I finished Douglas Monks book heart to heart volume one.

Pretty darn good book. Actually it’s more of a devotional book. It should have been read some every day, but I wanted to get the review done, so I speeded up the process.


Book Summary

The writer of Hebrews encouraged us to “consider how to stir up one another to love and good works.” (Chapter 10:24 ESV) This book is a collection of letters (or musings) written to do just that. (Stir you up!) Whether you are an older Christian wanting to rekindle the fire, or a new believer looking for practical ways to live out your faith, Heart To Heart Volume #1 was written just for you.

Author Profile

 Douglas Monk and his wife Micaela live on an acreage in the Midwest. In addition to writing, Doug spends his time as a general contractor, home educator, and Cell Group leader. In his free time, Doug likes to read, work in their apple orchard and ride his Suzuki 800. Eventually he and Micaela would like to open a bed and breakfast.

There are 4 sections and after each section there are a few discussion questions, so I assume the book could be used as a study.

There were a couple chapters that really hit home to me, Doug writes well, has great advice, writes from the heart and from God’s Word.

‘I have an STD’ and ‘The Monkey and the Gourd’.

Funny story, I was reading the monkey chapter and picturing me walking into church with a gourd stuck to my hand and having to explain to everyone why the damn gourd was on my hand.

Then I threw the book! That’s how convicted I felt.

The chapter is about holding onto sins. Holding on to bitterness and not forgiving others. So that’s where I  was sitting that day. Holding on to some unforgiveness.

Doug also mentions a book by Charles Stanley, The Gift of Forgiveness. I’m sure that would be good to read too.

I have a copy of volume 2, if anyone would like, just leave me a comment.

*It’s hard to write a review, I don’t want to say too much but want to spark an interest.

Blessings, Kristina

Doing Nothing Equals Something


  Forgive us our debts…Matthew 6:12 

 In fact, we can sin against God by omission — by doing nothing.  As James 4:17 tells us, “Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins.”  Therefore, if we are involved in a conflict and neglect opportunities to serve others (by failing to bear their burdens, gently restore them, etc.), we are guilty of sin in God’s eyes.

Taken from  The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 119

Food for Thought

By neglecting to do good, we end up neglecting God.

Have you ever been in a situation and you just knew you were being asked to do something good, say something good, be something good — but you didn’t do it, say it, or be it?  No doubt we all have.  In the wake of those moments, we often feel like we’ve neglected someone.  But how often do we live with the awareness that we’ve neglected God in those moments?

When we do something unto the least of our brothers or sisters, we’re doing it as unto the Lord.  And when we don’t something unto the least of our brothers and sisters, we’re not doing it unto the Lord.  Omission by another name is neglect.  And neglect in God’s eyes is sin. Sincerely confess it to God, and ask him to help you to “do good” in that relationship in the future.


My omission as of late is to not talk about God to non-believers. I talked with my son about this. The neighbor girl is a good example, as is his cousins, who we see on holidays. And his gramma, my mom, who he loves unconditionally.

BUT I can talk blue in the face to him about it, but he needs to see me do it.

I need to talk to my Tupperware lady, the guy down the street who dislikes Christians, the neighbor girls parents, my mother and family. These are actual people who we already have relationships with. Should be easy, right?

I also have a hard time just talking to strangers, being nice and kind. Going out of my way to be the first to smile, say hello, how are you sort of thing. I have fought this for a long time, the reason?

My mother talks to strangers and it always embarrassed me, from the earliest times I can remember it until now. Maybe it was the fact she would tell embarrassing things about me to strangers. Maybe it was because I saw the looks on the people faces behind my mothers back.

Anyway, on Monday, I resolved to talk to people.

1. the young guy at grocery store standing outside looking a bit forlorn, I said Hi, how are you today?.

2. Asked the girl with the crutches and cast on her foot at the craft store what happened to her foot. Of course that led into a conversation about my foot and how it was broken. (she broke hers doing gymnastics)

3. a woman in line before me was buying at least 600 t-shirts, they all had the security tags on them and it was taking some time. So I asked her what she was buying them for and I dropped my stuff and started helping the cashier take off the tags while she rang up. She was buying the t-shirts to send to Mexico for poor kids and we then talked about sending bibles to foreign countries.  She thanked me for the help and I told her ‘bless you’.

My son was with me during all these exchanges and I asked him what he thought. He was ok with all of them except asking the girl about the foot, because I mentioned that he and I were wrestling when it happened to me. (Did I mention the girl was about my sons age, kinda cute, too) 😉

So, it’s pretty painful for me to get out of my comfort zone, so to speak. I’d much rather just hang my head, not get in anybodies way and go about my business of the day.

Is this how Jesus is telling us how to live?

What is your sin of omission?

Blessings, The Home Engineer