Monthly Archives: September 2007

How to Be a Good Wife 1920’s Style

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 From here, check it out, awesome stuff, old school style

How to be a good hubby here

How to Be a Good Wife.

1. Reverence Your Husband.—He sustains by God’s order a position of dignity as head of a family, head of the woman. Any breaking down of this order indicates a mistake in the union, or a digression from duty.

2. Love Him.—A wife loves as naturally as the sun shines. Love is your best weapon. You conquered him with that in the first place. You can reconquer by the same means.

3. Do Not Conceal Your Love from Him.—If he is crowded with care, and too busy to seem to heed your love, you need to give all the greater attention to securing his knowledge of your love. If you intermit he will settle down into a hard, cold life with increased rapidity. Your example will keep the light on his conviction. The more he neglects the fire on the hearth, the more carefully must you feed and guard it. It must not be allowed to go out. Once out you must sit ever in darkness and in the cold.

4. Cultivate the Modesty and Delicacy of Your Youth.—The relations and familiarity of wedded life may seem to tone down the sensitive and retiring instincts of girlhood, but nothing can compensate for the loss of these. However, much men may admire the public performance of gifted women, they do not desire that boldness and dash in a wife. The holy blush of a maiden’s modesty is more powerful in hallowing and governing a home than the heaviest armament that ever a warrior bore.

5. Cultivate Personal Attractiveness.—This means the storing of your mind with a knowledge of passing events, and with a good idea of the world’s general advance. If you read nothing, and make no effort to make yourself attractive, you will soon sink down into a dull hack of stupidity. If your husband never hears from you any words of wisdom, or of common information, he will soon hear nothing from you. Dress and gossips soon wear out. If your memory is weak, so that it hardly seems worth while to read, that is additional reason for reading.

6. Cultivate Physical Attractiveness.—When you were encouraging the attentions of him whom you now call husband, you did not neglect any item of dress or appearance that could help you. Your hair was always in perfect training. You never greeted him with a ragged or untidy dress or soiled hands. It is true that your “market is made,” but you cannot afford to have it “broken.” Cleanliness and good taste will attract now as they did formerly. Keep yourself at your best. Make the most of physical endowments. Neatness and order break the power of poverty.

7. Study Your Husband’s Character.—He has his peculiarities. He has no right to many of them, and you need to know them; thus you can avoid many hours of friction. The good pilot steers around the sunken rocks that lie in the channel. The engineer may remove them, not the pilot. You are more pilot than engineer. Consult his tastes. It is more important to your home, that you should please him than anybody else.

8. Practice Economy.—Many families are cast out of peace into grumbling and discord by being compelled to fight against poverty. When there are no great distresses to be endured or accounted for, complaint and fault-finding are not so often evoked. Keep your husband free from the annoyance of disappointed creditors, and he will be more apt to keep free from annoying you. To toil hard for bread, to fight the wolf from the door, to resist impatient creditors, to struggle against complaining pride at home, is too much to ask of one man. A crust that is your own is a feast, while a feast that is purloined from unwilling creditors if a famine.

Also check out these chapters

  • Dress, page 88
  • Beauty, page 91
  • Sensible Helps to Beauty, page 95
  • How to Keep the Bloom and Grace of Youth, page 97
  • Form and Deformity, page 98
  • How to Determine a Perfect Human Figure, page 99
  • The History, Mystery, Benefits and Injuries of the Corset, page 101
  • Tight-Lacing, page 104
  • The Care of the Hair, page 107
  • How to Cure Pimples or Other Facial Eruptions, page 111
  • Black-Heads and Flesh Worms, page 112
  • Love, page 114

7 Deadly Sins

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I really don’t know why the 7 deadly sins intrigue me so.

I always thought they were listed as such in the bible, but alas, they are not. But the catholic faith has conveniently packaged them up in a pretty bundle along with the 7 heavenly virtures and the 7 sacraments. All with the magical mystical number 7 entwined.

Greed: Very Low
Gluttony: Low
Wrath: Low
Sloth: Low
Envy: Very Low
Lust: Very Low
Pride: Medium

The Seven Deadly Sins Quiz on 4degreez.com

Oh, jeez, and here I thought ‘being in control’ was my deadly sin 🙂

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How to Be a Good Husband 1920’s Style

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  This is awesome, anything under the sun, from pimples to hair to marriage, please check it out! HERE

How to Be a Good Husband.

1. Show Your Love.—All life manifests itself. As certainly as a live tree will put forth leaves in the spring, so certainly will a living love show itself. Many a noble man toils early and late to earn bread and position for his wife. He hesitates at no weariness for her sake. He justly thinks that such industry and providence give a better expression of his love than he could by caressing her and letting the grocery bills go unpaid. He fills the cellar and pantry. He drives and pushes his business. He never dreams that he is actually starving his wife to death. He may soon have a woman left to superintend his home, but his wife is dying. She must be kept alive by the same process that called her into being. Recall and repeat the little attentions and delicate compliments that once made you so agreeable, and that fanned her love into a consuming flame. It is not beneath the dignity of the skillful physician to study all the little symptoms, and order all the little round of attentions that check the waste of strength and brace the staggering constitution. It is good work for a husband to cherish his wife.

 2. Consult with Your Wife.—She is apt to be as right as you are, and frequently able to add much to your stock of wisdom. In any event she appreciates your attentions.

3. Study to Keep Her Young.—It can be done. It is not work, but worry, that wears. Keep a brave, true heart between her and all harm.

4. Help to Bear Her Burdens.—Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of love. Love seeks opportunities to do for the loved object. She has the constant care of your children. She is ordained by the Lord to stand guard over them. Not a disease can appear in the community without her taking the alarm. Not a disease can come over the threshold without her instantly springing into the mortal combat. If there is a deficiency anywhere it comes out of her pleasure. Her burdens are everywhere. Look for them, that you may lighten them.

5. Make Yourself Helpful by Thoughtfulness.—Remember to bring into the house your best smile and sunshine. It is good for you, and it cheers up the home. There is hardly a nook in the house that has not been carefully hunted through to drive out everything that might annoy you. The dinner which suits, or ought to suit you, has not come on the table of itself. It represents much thoughtfulness and work. You can do no more manly thing than find some way of expressing, in word or look, your appreciation of it.

6. Express Your Will, Not by Commands, but by Suggestions.—It is God’s order that you should be the head of the family. You are clothed with authority. But this does not authorize you to be stern and harsh, as an officer in the army. Your authority is the dignity of love. When it is not clothed in love it ceases to have the substance of authority. A simple suggestion that may embody a wish, an opinion or an argument, becomes one who reigns over such a kingdom as yours.

7. Seek to Refine Your Nature.—It is no slander to say that many men have wives much more refined than themselves. This is natural in the inequalities of life. Other qualities may compensate for any defect here. But you need have no defect in refinement. Preserve the gentleness and refinement of your wife as a rich legacy for your children, and in so doing you will lift yourself to higher levels.

8. Be a Gentleman as well as a Husband.—The signs and bronze and callouses of toil are no indications that you are not a gentleman. The soul of gentlemanliness is a kindly feeling toward others, that prompts one to secure their comfort. That is why the thoughtful peasant lover is always so gentlemanly, and in his love much above himself.

9. Stay at Home.—Habitual absence during the evenings is sure to bring sorrow. If your duty or business calls you you have the promise that you will be kept in all your ways. But if you go out to mingle with other society, and leave your wife at home alone, or with the children and servants, know that there is no good in store for you. She has claims upon you that you can not afford to allow to go to protest. Reverse the case. You sit down alone after having waited all day for your wife’s return, and think of her as reveling in gay society, and see if you can keep out all the doubts as to what takes her away. If your home is not as attractive as you want it, you are a principal partner. Set yourself about the work of making it attractive.

10. Take Your Wife with You into Society.—Seclusion begets morbidness. She needs some of the life that comes from contact with society. She must see how other people appear and act. It often requires an exertion for her to go out of her home, but it is good for her and for you. She will bring back more sunshine. It is wise to rest sometimes. When the Arab stops for his dinner he unpacks his camel. Treat your wife with as much consideration.

Also check out these chapters

  • The Road to Shame, page 430
  • The Curse of Manhood, page 433
  • A Private Talk to Young Men, page 437
  • Remedies for the Social Evil, page 440
  • The Selfish Slaves of Doses of Disease and Death, page 441
  • Object Lessons of the Effects of Alcohol and Smoking, page 445
  • The Destructive Effects of Cigarette Smoking, page 449
  • The Dangerous Vices, page 451
  • Nocturnal Emissions, page 457
  • Lost Manhood Restored, page 459
  • Manhood Wrecked and Rescued, page 461

Respectable Sins

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”Now why is it called a respectable sin? Because good people are guilty of it. People who would never rob or be dishonest. This sin is hard to isolate. Only those who commit the sin know they are doing it.”

Does anyone know what this sin is?

And does this sentence raise any red flags for you?

**Answer at end of post.

I ordered this book I saw on Shepherd’s Scrapbbook.

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NIV    1Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,

2through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God.

NASB 1Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,

   2through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God.

MESS 1 -2By entering through faith into what God has always wanted to do for us—set us right with him, make us fit for him—we have it all together with God because of our Master Jesus. And that’s not all: We throw open our doors to God and discover at the same moment that he has already thrown open his door to us. We find ourselves standing where we always hoped we might stand—out in the wide open spaces of God’s grace and glory, standing tall and shouting our praise.

AMPL 1THEREFORE, SINCE we are justified (acquitted, declared righteous, and given a right standing with God) through faith, let us [grasp the fact that we] have [the peace of reconciliation to hold and to enjoy] peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

    2Through Him also we have [our] access (entrance, introduction) by faith into this grace (state of God’s favor) in which we [firmly and safely] stand. And let us rejoice and exult in our hope of experiencing and enjoying the glory of God.

KJV 1Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:

   2By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.  

NLT 1 Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.

2 Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.

These verses, brought to you today by Romans chapter 5, promise so much…

*Through faith ~ we have Peace with God

*By faith ~ grace to stand, standing grace from God

*Rejoice in the hope of the glory of God, the coming of God or being with God eternally.

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**Answer: James 4:17 Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins.

This question has been brought to you today by this website and this baptist one

Blessings and peace to you today! The Home Engineer

Lord, Be Merciful ~ Psalm 41:4

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When your heart throbs and flutters, when your swollen limb seems as if it were laid on an anvil and beaten with red hot hammers, when the pain goes through you again and again until you cry out in agony, and when the tears unwittingly fall from your eyes, pray this prayer, “Lord, be merciful to me” {Psalm 41:4.}

I have found that when medicine fails, or when sleep is chased away, or when pain becomes unbearable, it is good to appeal directly to God. I say, “Lord, I am Your child. Will You allow Your child to be tortured with pain? Did You not say, ‘As a father pities his children, so the Lord pities those who fear Him’ {Psalm 103:13}?

Therefore, Lord, be merciful to me.”

I can honestly assert that I have found immediate relief and remission of extreme pain in answer to a simple appeal to my Father. I know that many of you have had a similar experience.

When hurting  with severe pain, you will find that quiet resignation, holy patience, and childlike submissiveness will enable you to pray, “Lord, be merciful to me.”

This often brings better relief that anything that the most skilled physician can prescribe. You are permitted and encouraged to act this way. When the rod falls heavy, look up into your Father’s face and say, “Lord, be merciful to me.”

~This was sent to me by a wonderful crazy friend, I love you, Dianna!

4 I said, “O LORD, have mercy on me;
heal me, for I have sinned against you.”  psalm 41:4

13 As a father has compassion on his children,
so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;

The Religious Elements in Cults

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I took this in its entirety from this site :

Any questions, please refer to any of the links given

I thought it was interesting because the scripture verses were available.

*Disclaimer at the bottom…….

Here you will find a few helpful links about cults and spiritual abuse. More to come…

Information on religious cults and new religious movements. http://www.religious.freeola.com/cults2.htm

Excerpt from this website:
THE RELIGIOUS ELEMENT IN CULTS

Aside from fulfilling needs, a group comes to have a strong hold on followers through the religious element in the leader’s teachings. Most people learn religious ideas from a young age when, because of their openness and vulnerability, the ideas penetrate deeply. Thus, the use of old religious ideas in NRGs touches an irresistible chord in many and renders members more impressionable.

The following are examples of attitudes which are enhanced by scriptural ideas from within the Judeo-Christian tradition:

  • A feeling of being chosen and therefore special
    Matthew 7.6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.
    Matthew 13.10-11And the disciples came, and said unto him, Why speakest thou unto them in parables? He answered and said unto them, Because it is given unto you to know the mysteries of the kingdom of heaven, but to them it is not given.
    Matthew 13.16 But blessed are your eyes, for they see; and your ears, for they hear.
    Matthew 22.14 For many are called, but few are chosen.
  • Being ready to give up everything for spiritual development
    Matthew 4.18-20 And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers. And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men. And they straightway left their nets, and followed him.
    Matthew 6.31-33Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek;) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
  • Ignoring warnings that you may be making a mistake
    Matthew 5.11-12 Blessed are ye, when men revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so men persecuted they the prophets which were before you.
  • Embracing the need to endure suffering and humiliation
    Matthew 7.14Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.
    Matthew 10.And he that taketh not this cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.
  • Being prepared to make sacrifices
    Matthew 16.24-26 Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
  • Relinquishing attachments to family and friends
    Matthew 4.18-20 And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers. And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men. And they straightway left their nets, and followed him.
    Matthew 8.21-22 And another of his disciples said unto him, Lord, suffer me first to go and bury my father. But Jesus said unto him, Follow me; and let the dead bury their dead.
    Matthew 10.34-37Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. for I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in low against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
  • Becoming a more powerful person
    Matthew 17.20 And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, if ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.
  • Accepting fear as a method of reinforcing teaching
    Matthew 22.12-14And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless. Then said the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. For many are called, but few are chosen.
    Matthew 18.34-35 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
  • Giving to the group and accepting a life with few possessions
    Matthew 20.21-24 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me. But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful: for he had great possessions. Then said Jesus unto his disciples, Verily I say unto you, that a rich man shall hardly enter into the kingdom of heaven. And again I say unto you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.
  • Being drawn to the inner circle of a group by the possibility of miracles
    Mark 16.15-18And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature. He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned. And these signs shall follow them that believe; in my name shall they cast out devils; they shall speak with new tongues. They shall take up serpents; and if they drink any deadly thing, it shall not hurt them; they shall lay hands on the sick, and they shall recover.
    Matthew 13.10-11And the disciples came, and said unto him, Why speakest thou unto them in parables? He answered and said unto them, Because it is given unto you to know the mysteries of the kingdom of heaven, but to them it is not given.
  • Not requiring proof of the leader’s validity
    Matthew 16.1-4The Pharisees also with the Sadducees came, and tempting desired him that he would shew them a sign from heaven. He answered and said unto them, When it is evening, ye say, it will be fair weather: for the sky is red. And in the morning, it will be foul weather to day: for the sky is red and lowring. O ye hypocrites, ye can discern the face of the sky; but can ye not discern the signs of the times? A wicked and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign; and there shall no sign be given unto it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas. And he left them, and departed.
  • Adopting a childlike dependency on the leader
    Matthew 18.2-4 And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst of them. And said, Verily I say unto you, except ye be converted and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven. (Quotations are taken from the authorized King James version of the New Testament published by Collins Clear-Type Press) Excellent information on cults and spiritual abuse.
    http://www.ourchurch.com/view/?pageID=340935Battered Sheep. http://www.batteredsheep.com/Dysfunctional Churches” by Ron Enroth, Ph.D
    http://www.icsahome.com/infoserv_articles/enroth_ronald_dysfunctional_churches.htm
    International Cultic Studies Association. http://www.csj.org“The Myth of Spiritual Covering” by Steven Lambert, Th.D http://www.slm.org/trtdigst/articles/covering.htmlPersonal Freedom Outreach. http://www.pfo.org/index.htmreFocus: Recovering Former Cultists’ Support Network. http://www.refocus.org

    Ross Institute. http://www.rickross.com

    Spiritual Abuse Recovery Resources. http://www.spiritualabuse.com

    Steven Hassan’s Freedom of Mind Center. http://www.freedomofmind.com

    Wellspring Retreat & Resource Center http://wellspringretreat.org

*Disclaimer; This is in no way, shape or form, me agreeing or disagreeing with anything in these articles, they are here for your ‘knowledge’

Kristina