A Follow-up to Mondays post:


 He who answers before listening – that is his folly and his shame.Proverbs 18:13 

Waiting patiently while others talk is a key listening skill. 

 Without this skill, you will often fail to understand the root cause of a conflict, and you may complicate matters with inappropriate reactions.

Taken from  The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 166

Food for Thought

How often are you thinking about what you’re going to say while the other person is finishing what they’re saying?

This is a hard one, right?  But a little bit of discipline can go a long way in the listening department. 

 One suggestion is learning to be comfortable with silence. 

 For example, the next time you jump in your car to go somewhere, resist the urge to turn on the radio. 

 Roll down the window and drive in silence.  Whether it’s two blocks or twenty-seven miles, drive in silence. 

Silence… it’s not the absence of sound, but the absence of noise. 

Take the noise away and you’ll be amazed at what you can hear.  It might be the song of mockingbirds. 

Or maybe the heart of a significant matter.

My hubby is this way {I am too} But you can literallly see the wheels turning on the side of his head while I’m talking to him.

He is a problem solver, a do-er, a fixer, its a man thing. But he doesn’t let a person finish their sentence. And he just doesn’t see it,  and as good proverbs 31 wife [*cough*cough*] I shouldn’t bring it up to him. But, alas, I do sometimes, ya know how you see something about a person, and can not even believe they can’t see it in themselves?

~And as a wise person once said, the sins we see in others are the ones we have ourselves~

I Absolutely love the silence, too much noise stresses me out.

 Sometimes after being at home all day in silence, when the guys come home, I can hardly tolerate all the noise, the hubby wants the TV on, son talking 90 miles per hour, hubby asking every 5 minutes when is dinner, you know the drill.

My mom has to have the TV or radio on all the time, shes says she can not stand the silence, it makes her think. A shame really, She knows no peace.

Whatever your noise level is, turn it down, learn to enjoy silence, use the time to pray, talk to God.

Anyone else have this problem? Comments?

Blessings, Kristina

Proverbs 18

      2 A fool finds no pleasure in understanding
but delights in airing his own opinions.

       4 The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters,
but the fountain of wisdom is a bubbling brook.

    6 A fool’s lips bring him strife,
and his mouth invites a beating.

    7 A fool’s mouth is his undoing,
and his lips are a snare to his soul.

    8 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
they go down to a man’s inmost parts.

    10 The name of the LORD is a strong tower;
the righteous run to it and are safe.

       13 He who answers before listening—
that is his folly and his shame.

    17 The first to present his case seems right,
till another comes forward and questions him.

      20 From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled;
with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied.

    21 The tongue has the power of life and death,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.

    23 A poor man pleads for mercy,
but a rich man answers harshly.

3 responses »

  1. love this! i’m on both sides. i love silence. i love commotion. depending on the commotion and how long the silence has been. i definitely catch myself thinking of my next words before one is done talking…it’s so bad! Great reminder! Prov 10:19 says something to the effect of too much talk breeds sin – so keep your mouth shut – ouch!

    NEXT Tuesday! come on!!!

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