This is something I read from a pastor/teacher/golfer/friend:
Communication With Children
1. Be a ready listener and do not answer until your child has finished talking
2. Be slow to speak. Think first. Don’t be hasty in your words.
Speak in such a way that your child can understand and accept what you say.
3. Speak the truth always, but do it in love. Do not exaggerate to make your point.
4. Do not use silence to frustrate your child. Explain why you are hesitant to talk at this time.
5. Do not quarrel. It is possible to disagree without quarreling.
6. Do not respond in anger. Use a soft and kind response.
7. When you are in the wrong, admit it and ask your child for forgiveness. When they confess to you, tell them you forgive them. Be sure it is also forgotten and not brought up again.
8. Avoid nagging.
9. Do not blame or criticize your child, but encourage them and build them up. If they verbally attack, criticize or blame you, do not respond in the same manner.
10. Try to understand your child’s opinion. Make allowances for differences. Be concerned about their interests.
I wrote a story to my son abut 4 years ago. He had left for school without doing his chores and we parted angry. When he came home his chores were done and this note in his room.
I put this as a separate page because I didn’t want to bore people with my story unless they really wanted to see it!
Please see above by the picture of the cats, by the blog and about me pages, click on grace story. It will only be there for a limited time!