Interesting article from the Marin Foundation
I often feel it’s my fault
But God is bigger
Does it matter? My husband and I have already paid for our deaths. Nice thought, eh?
Well, we didn’t want it to be a burden to our boys. We have decided to be cremated. Not quite sure what to do with the ashy remains yet, but maybe the boys can decide that.
I have read the pros and cons of this debate and think its a bit weak on the burial side. I know what has been done in iniquity but I also know God can raise up anyone of His Elect when He returns no matter how they die or were laid to rest. I’m pretty sure this isn’t a hill He wants us to die on defending.
Is burial MORE pleasing to God? I don’t know. I do know that it won’t matter in heaven.
No, God isn’t anti-gay. God is anti-sin. This was a great little book defining, again, the verses of the old and new testament, “the clobber verses” about homosexuality. Written in an easy to understand and kind way, it made me come back to realize how I am to look at this ‘situation’. I might have to read this again and again.
A friend of mine suggested this book, so I grabbed it. It is in book study form with questions at the end of each chapter and a bonus chapter for church leaders.
If you have never been a victim or a perpetrator of church gossip you may not think this too much of a problem. But I have been in gossips devastating path and it wounds.
We tend to overlook the respectable sins [also a book by Jerry Bridges] [a mighty good read, also]
but these cut just as deep as the ‘big sins’. Most of the book is common sense, but even in the christian arena/church, people tend to lack common sense.
It’s a book to think about maybe doing a small group study from, or to read yourself, just to remind yourself if you have been impacted by gossip or have done the gossiping… maybe apologizing to someone is in order.
There are my not-so-amazing book reviews. As you can tell my reading material is pretty eclectic. Some many books still to read.
Love ya, The Home Engineer
Q. 1. What is the chief end of man?
A. Man’s chief end is to glorify God, [a] and to enjoy him for ever. [b]
A. The Word of God, which is contained in the Scriptures of the Old and New Testaments, [a] is the only rule to direct us how we may glorify and enjoy him. [b]
A. The Scriptures principally teach what man is to believe concerning God, [a] and what duty God requires of man [b].
So, with that said… open that bible and read it!
So, I read this blog post and commented on it, the comment is below.
I never in a million years would have thought I would be going through a grieving process over this, but as soon as it hit, I knew what it was. Knew the pain my brain and my heart would go thru.
Its crazy, because the kid think its focused on him, but it’s not. Its our hopes, dreams, wishes, wants, feeling of what WE want or have for our child that is the focus.
When a parents focus is dysfunctional then it gets weird. Or shall I say priorities get messed up.
We worry about safety [we can thank the news for that] we worry about health [AIDS, HIV, STD]
and their future happiness [because certainly they can not be happy being like that! ] [sarcasm]
Our first thought is never “What is my child going through?” But soon our thoughts do come around to that and the heartfelt conversations begin.
It’s a long long heart-wrenching experience to finally talk to your child about what he went/is going through when he realizes he/she isn’t ‘normal’.
To know all the things you don’t ever want your child to go through, they have already, either by bullies, the church, their own brain. It’s agonizing.
Most parents probably don’t get to that stage. Maybe I shouldn’t say that, but I’ve read and heard the stories of shitty parents not getting past their own dysfunction to take care of their hurting kids.
Long story short. I read it, I commented on it, I live it.
Jason, this is a great article and like you said, its not a ‘one size fits all’ but it’s very good. I did a lot of my grieving with/focused at God, the bargaining, the acceptance. In my anger I never blamed my son or God, mostly myself.
I have probably read every single book/blog/article, christian and not, about SSA. It’s been exhausting. But I love my son and I love my God and those need to be reconciled in my mind and heart.
My child, as probably most, really just want their parents to be at the acceptance stage as soon as they tell them. They don’t understand the parents must go through the same process as they have throughout their lifetime.
My advice to a child getting ready to tell their parents: be patient and be prepared to walk through the grieving process with your parents.
As a parent first I want my child to be saved, then I want the child to be safe, to be happy and thrive, and I want him in my life.
All these things get put in the forefront of a parent’s mind when their child comes out to them.
I’m kind of rambling, but hopefully you get what I am saying. thanks. Kristina
Here are some links that define the Duck Dynasty’s denomination or their beliefs.
Just wanted to throw these out there for the interwebs. Do your research. Not every christian believes this stuff.
In the media the fringiest of christian ‘sect’ get all the attention.
Most of us are pretty normal, believe the bible, try to live life according to Gods Word [love God and love others] and don’t do crazy shit.
Found this here:
“First, to map out the boundaries within which all discussion must go on, I take it for certain that the physical satisfaction of homosexual desires is sin. This leaves the homosexual no worse off that any normal person who is, for whatever reason, prevented from marrying. Second our speculations on the cause of the abnormality are not what matters and we must be content with ignorance. The disciples were not told why (in terms of efficient cause) the man was born blind (John 9:1-3): only the final cause, that the works of God should be made manifest in him.
The disciples were not told why (in terms of efficient cause) the man was born blind (John 9:1-3): only the final cause, that the works of God should be made manifest in him
This suggests that in homosexuality, as in every other tribulation, those works can be made manifest: i.e. that every disability conceals a vocation, if only we find it, which would “turn the necessity to glorious gain.” Of course, the first step must be to accept any privations which, if so disabled, we can’t lawfully get. The homosexual has to accept sexual abstience just as the poor man has to forgo otherwise lawful pleasures because he would be unjust to his wife and children if he took them. That is merely a negative condition.
What should the positive life of the homosexual be? I wish I had a letter which a pious male homosexual, now dead, once wrote to me – but of course it was the sort of letter one takes care to destroy. He believed that his necessity could be turned to spiritual gain: that there were certain kinds of sympathy and understanding, a certain social role which mere men and mere women could not give. But it is all horribly vague – too long ago. Perhaps any homosexual who humbly accepts his cross and puts himself under Divine guidance will, however, be shown the way. I am sure that any attempt to evade it (e.g., by mock- or quasi-marriage with a member of one’s own sex even if this does not led to any carnal act) is the wrong way.”
CS Lewis in Walter Hooper (Ed)., The Collected Letters of CS Lewis Vol III, p.471.
Q70: Which is the Seventh Commandment?
A70: The Seventh Commandment is, “thou shalt not commit adultery.”
Q71: What is required in the Seventh Commandment?
A71: The Seventh Commandment requireth the preservation of our own and our neighbor’s chasity, in heart, speech, and behaviour.
Q72: What is forbidden in the Seventh Commandment?
A72: The Seventh Commandment forbiddeth all unchaste thoughts, words, and actions.
Sexual relations between a married person and someone other than his or her spouse. Prohibitions against adultery are found in virtually every society; Jewish, Christian, and Islamic traditions all condemn it, and in some Islamic countries it is still punishable by death. Attitudes toward adultery in different cultures have varied widely. Under the Code of Hammurabi (18th century BC) in Babylonia it was punishable by death by drowning, and in ancient Rome an offending woman could be killed, though men were not severely punished. In western Europe and North America, adultery by either spouse is a ground for divorce, though in the U.S. the shift to no-fault divorce significantly reduced the importance of adultery as an element in divorce proceedings. The spread of Western ideas of equality in marriage has resulted in pressure for equal marital rights for women in traditional African and Southeast Asian societies.
: not having sex
: morally pure or decent : not sinful
: simple or plain
chaste, pure, modest, decent mean free from all taint of what is lewd or salacious. chaste primarily implies a refraining from acts or even thoughts or desires that are not virginal or not sanctioned by marriage vows <they maintained chaste relations>. pure differs from chaste in implying innocence and absence of temptation rather than control of one’s impulses and actions <the pure of heart>. modest and decent apply especially to deportment and dress as outward signs of inward chastity or purity <preferred more modest swimsuits><decent people didn’t go to such movies>.
heart, speech, behaviour, thoughts, words, actions. Did you think it was just ‘keeping your pants on?’
Nope. Old testament talks about the ‘acts’ the new testament, Jesus, in fact, talks about our hearts, minds and thoughts!